The Priorities of Gender Communication and Closure

An analysis of transcripts of female to male communication
Shows high valuation of affirmations regarding the state of relationship.

Male to female communication analysis, in contrast, values the articulation of goals.

While acknowledging that gender identification for any individual may vary
(Gender identity is a complex of many behaviors),
Very rarely does anyone behave in a gender neutral role.

Therefore, regardless of the role played, any communication in cross-gender relationships
will either be evaluated from the male gender role in the context of affirmation of shared goals
or from the female gender role in the context of the affirming of the relationship.

In evaluative communication between genders,
Closure is not likely to be achieved unless a statement of goals can be made
Which is also an affirmation of the state of relationship.

"People in different boats shouldn't hold hands."